QOTD: Do you read non fiction?
I try to read a mix since I do read a lot of professional articles, etc.
Slay Like a Mother
This book definitely resonated with me! My dragon appeared when I was very young. My sister is two years older than me and her first real boyfriend is her husband and they are still together (together 29 yrs). Suffice to say I thought it would be the same for me and really made a lot of bad choices and hurt myself and my dragon got very large. But I think there was a time my dragon spoke through me and not to me.
It is also hard not to compare yourself to others. I am not one that sets super high work goals etc. I probably should and that’s a stressor, I mean is it too late to change careers?
The one thing I have always wanted to be was a Mom and I try not to take myself too seriously. I am not a neat freak or a helicopter parent or someone who knows how to be super strict about anything. My internal rules are to make sure everyone hears from me that I love them multiple times a day and I tend to whisper it to them. My 7 year old likes her hair to be petted like a cat and my 3 year old likes to cuddle and is an old soul (I think she snagged a piece of my Dad’s soul). I just watch them to see how they problem solve and will catch them if it looks like they might actually injure themselves. Though the 3 yr old is too quick and we’ve taken her to the emergency room twice already.
I put so many flags in this book!
💫I loved how every chapter had some questions to dig deep and think about how you think about yourself. I either was being easy on myself or I was having a good week last week. I tell you when I am on my cycle that damn dragon is the size of the Mt. Everest.
💫The difference between Struggling and Suffering is profound. And sometimes you slip over the edge and don’t realize how long you have been trying to function in Suffering land. Ugh. I begged for help a few months ago and my husband was like sure whatever you need! And I’m like what really! Seriously also ask your support system for help. They may be suffering too you can figure out a strategy and a new path together.
💫The diagrams of the positive and negative reinforcements! I need to give myself more positive reinforcements! I swear my hair has been falling out. I hope it’s not from feeling blue. My Dad used to build me and my sister up so much and we miss that so much! You can’t ask others to fill that in. That guy would tell us how beautiful we were, and how smart, and great mothers, I mean he was the perfect Dad and would always say he thought he could’ve been better. We all struggle with insecurity even the best parents. I mean he was the best for me.
💫There is also being truthful instead of pretending to be someone else in front of other women, moms, coworkers. Ok honestly I tell the gritty truth to everyone! I always have. It sometimes backfires because not everyone likes that. But the majority of everyone feels open to talk to me because of it. I have always been interested in others lives and if they are experiencing life the same way I am so I tell things the way it is to see if they do. My life is usually way weirder but it’s amusing.
💫A little anecdote that I thought fit. I was stressing to the point I was sick this one weekend over a job that hadn’t been started and my manager wasn’t responding to my emails about it. I ruined my family’s weekend and on Monday I finally got a hold of her. She said email them and request the information we have time. I told her I got sick. I was so worried. She told me not to worry about things I have no control over. So I try to do that at work now I don’t take my work home with me (lol I have been working remote for a year but you know what I mean).
This book is a great book for anyone who is feeling overwhelmed with life, who needs a pep talk, encouragement, a helping hand in slaying that nagging voice in your head that isn’t the real you so that you can live that healthy happy life.
Thank you so much for the gifted signed copy for my honest and voluntary review!
“This empowering self-help book champions the kind of self-doubting that mother Katherine Wintsch, CEO of The Mom Complex, calls “Never-Enough,” the kind of mother whose guilt, desperation, and fear about not being enough is overwhelming. Based on more than a decade of research, Slay Like a Mother takes a brave new look at the increasing population of modern mothers and reveals the good, the bad, and the ugly behind the battles they fight within. Brave, supportive, and insightful, the stories and advice shared in this book will teach women to live more confidently, enjoy the present, and slay like a mother”–