Detransition, baby by Torrey Peters

Not my usual pick of a story since I’ve been reading mostly YA and cis hetero romance but I’m glad I did! Learning to be a better advocate for my besties daughter. 

A beautiful story of a trans woman, her detransitioned ex-girlfriend Ames (Amy) and his new pregnant cis girlfriend. The anecdotes, tragedies, conversations, vulnerabilities of women. Women in all its definitions, in so many of it’s difficulties and hardships. The beautiful and messy. 

Now, gender is a social construct. Don’t fight me on this. There can be variants and degrees to every other human aspect and experience except gender? Ridiculousness.  Trying to stuff humans into two boxes is probably why we are all so messed up as it is. I’m sure all of the boxes the LGBTQIA+ has established is just scratching the surface of the degrees of gender experienced but hidden from society. It’s a shame and whose business is it again?! Let’s still clutch our pearls, no thanks. I want to know everyone’s truth, please tell me all your stories. Like I’ve said we are all waves in the ocean unique and all different but all from the same source. I wish we could see the beauty in eachother.

Also, any person with a heart and soul regardless of what they identify as, should be able to adopt and raise a child. I have cis hetero friends who can’t even adopt. How many kids age out of the system with no family? My soul is torrential downpour. 

Rating: ⭐⭐⭐⭐💫
Thank you @netgalley and @oneworld for my honest and voluntary review! 
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A whipsmart debut about three women–transgender and cisgender–whose lives collide after an unexpected pregnancy forces them to confront their deepest desires around gender, motherhood, and sex.

Reese almost had it all: a loving relationship with Amy, an apartment in New York City, a job she didn’t hate. She had scraped together what previous generations of trans women could only dream of: a life of mundane, bourgeois comforts. The only thing missing was a child. But then her girlfriend, Amy, detransitioned and became Ames, and everything fell apart. Now Reese is caught in a self-destructive pattern: avoiding her loneliness by sleeping with married men.

Ames isn’t happy either. He thought detransitioning to live as a man would make life easier, but that decision cost him his relationship with Reese–and losing her meant losing his only family. Even though their romance is over, he longs to find a way back to her. When Ames’s boss and lover, Katrina, reveals that she’s pregnant with his baby–and that she’s not sure whether she wants to keep it–Ames wonders if this is the chance he’s been waiting for. Could the three of them form some kind of unconventional family–and raise the baby together?

This provocative debut is about what happens at the emotional, messy, vulnerable corners of womanhood that platitudes and good intentions can’t reach. Torrey Peters brilliantly and fearlessly navigates the most dangerous taboos around gender, sex, and relationships, gifting us a thrillingly original, witty, and deeply moving novel.


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